A general question was asked on face book if anyone knew of any gay-friendly LDS wards.
Frankly, I hoped that we were passed this. Should we be asking if there are black friendly wards, or Hispanic friendly wards as well?
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but those over there will have to leave.
I have been in some "cold" wards before - ones whose members were not very open to newcomers, or wards that are slow to warm up to new comers, but I have never seen a ward that had a list of people who were welcome and people who weren't.
Okay, I take that back. When I was doing summer theater in Jackson Hole Wyoming, the ward there was wary of young Mormons moving in for the summer, wearing out the bishop with appointments to confess sins and then leaving for their home-land like geese in the fall. Since they didn't know who was setting weekly appointments with the bishop and who wasn't, we all got the evil eye.
Other than that episode (which I hear is still happening to summer stock college kids) I haven't heard of a ward that is either friendly or unfriendly to gays. I have someone in my ward now who thinks that they (we?) should all pick-up and move to Quebec, but that is one fool amongst many other kinder fools.
The thought that Mormons - or any other group - would have organized naughty and nice lists makes me queasy. If this behavior was to rear it's ugly head, hopefully the foolishness would be attributed to the rather foolish person or persons - if there were somehow more than two of them in one neighborhood - not the whole organization. At least, that is how I would wish it to be. Do I look at all republicans with disdain because Rick Perry is delusional? I would hope not.
I am not saying that all of us Mormons are politically correct, or that we are enlightened. I am saying that everyone is welcome - even if there are some hold-outs.
Since the whole idea of "specialty group intolerance" seems ludicrous to me in this day and age, I am going to assume that the guy on face book was asking if there are wards that allow their gay members to hold offices or have temple recommends. The answer is that they all do. It is church policy to allow all worthy members church callings and temple recommends.
Of course, all are welcome to church, including those who do not have a temple recommend, or a church calling, or who wear a white shirt. The no show socks bugs me, but I will get over it or convince you to wear socks. But none of these things really matter in the long run.
What matters is that everyone that comes through that door knows he is welcome in a real, candid and sincere way - including those of us that are doing the inviting.