I went back and found the talk. Here is the part I mention:
This little factory moves quietly into operation as a normal and expected pattern of growth and begins to produce the life-giving substance. It will do so perhaps as long as you live. It works very slowly. That is the way it should be. For the most part, unless you tamper with it, you will hardly be aware that it is working at all. As you move closer to manhood, this little factory will sometimes produce an oversupply of this substance.
The Lord has provided a way for that to be released. It will happen without any help or without any resistance from you. Perhaps, one night you will have a dream. In the course of it the release valve that controls the factory will open and release all that is excess.
The factory and automatic release work on their own schedule. The Lord intended it to be that way. It is to regulate itself. This will not happen very often. You may go a longer period of time, and there will be no need for this to occur. When it does, you should not feel guilty. It is the nature of young manhood and is part of becoming a man. BK Packer http://www.lds-mormon.com/only.shtml
At the time, I had no idea what factory he was talking about. The only factory I knew of was by the river in my home town that produced jerky, and the GA's wisdom simply didn’t apply to meat… Little did I know.
|It's just what I thought, dude. |
You need to get another hobby
I have spent 3/4s of my life feeling bad about masturbating. Not just masturbation - as in something that was sinful, but as in something I did on regularly that was sinful.
Please don't ask how regularly. Let me just say that if I spent as much time on something else I could have put myself through law school, and would have three Gina Bachauer trophies sitting on my piano.
In my twenties I remember thinking in a prayer, OK, I cant have sex with somebody else, and I can’t have it with myself. Just what do I do?
My bishop at a student ward told all of us during an elders quorum meeting that he didn’t care and didn’t want to know about masturbation as long as you did your business by yourself, and there was no pornography involved.
Those two years were the most spiritually free I remember feeling throughout puberty, teen life, and college -- those two years he was bishop. I wasn’t so frantic and ashamed. I smiled more. I talked to the guys sitting next to me in priesthood meeting. I even taught a few of those meetings without feeling like I was a self abusing, MOHOing fool.
|Play, boy! Play for your life!|
Now that I am older, I tend to think that what I do and who I do it with is none of anyone’s business. I feel only accountable to my wife and the lord through the bishop. He doesn’t ask me if I masturbate occasionally. I would tell him if he asked. I feel like an adult human male.
If I had the pressure and the urging of youth today, in middle age, I wonder how I would feel? With what I know about the temple and being a man, would I still masturbate as regularly as when I was 15 through 30?
Masturbation, unto it self (so to speak) is not the issue it has been made. I am not your bishop or spiritual adviser, so I would never give anyone advise. Rather that focusing on not doing something, focus on reading scriptures or serving others, or home teaching, or a countless number of other things and feel good about where you are going.
BK Packer, in that same talk also said this, that I missed hearing the the first time around:
"The power to prevent such habits or to break them rests in your mind, not in your body. Don't let that physical part of you take charge. Stay in control. Condition your body to do the will of your mind."
The talk makes more sense with emphasis placed on those last few sentences. Readers, (understanding that this is a sight that supports the LDS church as well as being gay) what say you?